
"Whatever makes you happy." That is something my dad always used to say as I was growing up. Along with "That's better than a poke in the eye with a sharp stick" or "You can be right but you can be dead right." It's funny how those little adages can stay with you for decades.
It took me a long time to figure out what made me happy. When you are young you don't yet know all the options open to you. You're at the mercy of parents, teachers, and circumstances over which you have no control. But I believe I always had an inner core of happiness. My dad's nickname for me as a kid was "Smiley." And when I pore over photographs of myself as a child, I do seem to be smiling a lot. (That's me in the striped shirt on the left in the photo.)
I enjoyed spending time with my Grandma Richard and Grandma Mooney. Both of them informed me that I had many choices that I could make as an adult. I could be a mommy, a teacher or a nurse. None of those careers really inspired me at the time, and it's a tribute to pushy women like Betty Friedan, Gloria Steinem and Billie Jean King that the choices widened up by the time I was ready to embark on my own career.
It's when I hit my "teen angst years" that a cloud of depression and gloom descended upon me. I had no idea what my future held, but my dreams kept me buoyed even as dark events threatened to pull me into the undertow. My beloved grandmothers both died. When my father got a job transfer, my family had to move from Kansas City where I was surrounded by friends who adored me to east Detroit where no one cared. After I fell down a set of stairs at school, an orthopedic surgeon operated on my knee and scraped away all the cartilage so that for the next four decades I suffered with degenerative arthritis, culminating in a Total Knee Replacement just last year. One of my darkest moments was getting raped and then left on a highway shoulder in west Detroit. When that occurred, I thought I could never be happy again.
But all those events faded into memory as I bloomed into my adulthood and began to achieve my dreams. I hitchhiked to California to start my life as a writer. I met my soulmate on Valentine's Day of 1982 and we have been together ever since. We traveled down under together, backpacking for two months in New Zealand, Tahiti and Fiji. In 1986 we drove around the United States, Canada and Alaska in a small Chinook for nine months (and 25,000) miles.

We built our video production company up from doing weddings and bar mitzvahs to where we are today, shooting high end productions for broadcast and corporate clients. A month ago I was laughing so hard I was crying as I commandeered a long-lens camera to record a Mystery Science Theater 2000 Christmas show. (It was a lock-down shot for much of the show, so I could laugh all I wanted.)
In the course of my work, I have chatted with stellar talents like J. Craig Venter, the man who mapped the human genome and is now working on a way to provide energy sources from algae, and former football star Kellen Winslow Jr. I have interviewed Hillary Clinton and Hilary Swank. I can tell you that Charlize Theron and Kim Kardashian are astoundingly beautiful, that Gene Simmons kept five crews waiting on a red carpet for two and a half hours, that Carrot Top has bulked up like he was tired of having sand kicked in his face, that Stan Lee is the epitome of graciousness, that Jerry Springer likes to sing Karaoke and is good at it, that Arnold Schwarzenegger is smaller than he looks on the big screen, and his hands are the size of hams.

I believe that those acne-ridden teenage years are sort of like the annealing process of the human being. If you can make it through alive, then you can choose to be happy. It is up to you whether you want to dwell in the pit of darkness or not.
I saw a news piece about Avatar the other night. The reporter mentioned that many viewers go to see it multiple times, and that when they leave the magnificent cinemascape of Pandora and emerge back into the light of Planet Earth, they are depressed and suicidal. It sounds to me like people have chained themselves too long to their computer monitors and big screens. A writer named
Richard Louv, whom we recently interviewed about his book,
"Last Child in the Woods," has coined the term, "Nature-Deficit Disorder." He points out that children need exposure to nature, like a plant needs sunlight. Their parents set them in front of the mindless babysitter, the television set. This is not only a disservice to children, but to society. To achieve a balance of good health and happiness, you've got to go out there and get your dose of Vitamin D. Go take a walk around the block. Ride your bike. Go to the beach or your local park.
In San Diego we are fortunate to have the largest city park in the country, Mission Trails. I ride my mountain bike there a lot, or hike to a small set of waterfalls. There's Cowles Mountain which I have blogged about before, the highest mountain in the city of San Diego. There are many other fun destinations where my friends and I go to ride our mountain bikes or hike. There are creeks to swim in, boulders to climb, shaded areas out in the mountains to bring a bottle of wine and a picnic. We do it at least once a week, and sometimes twice. Can you ever really get "enough" of nature? (P.S. When you spend time in Nature, you'll be less likely to let bad things happen to it.)

As in the animated movie, "Up" (on which I plan to write a film reflection), people just postpone their adventures until they are too old - or dead - to do them. Don't let that be you. Go and have a little fun with your "Mother" (Nature). Do it today.