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From time to time you come across completely amazing and ridiculous items in the news. This one forced me to take a very deep breath and feel glad that my own story had not headed in this direction. More on that later.
Reporter, Roxann MtJoy penned this piece, "Teenager Forced to Apologize to Her Church for Being Raped" on June 2nd at change.org.
Teenager Forced to Apologize to Her Church for Being Raped
Here's an excerpt that should intrigue you enough to check out the rest of the story:
In 1997, 15-year-old Tina Anderson became pregnant after being raped repeatedly by an older man she knew from church. Shockingly, when her pastor found out, he forced her to apologize in front of the entire congregation in Concord, New Hampshire, and then promptly helped whisk her away to live in Colorado.
I have often shaken my head upon learning of such stories coming from Muslim countries. A woman "gets herself raped" and then is either persecuted or honor-killed. But New Hampshire?
I've long thought that the current course we all find ourselves upon - of global environmental maladies, plummeting economies, and plain old far-flung unhappiness, could be turned around on a dime, if we all simply began honoring the source of all of us - the female, the womb, the Mother. If we could just take a deep breath and realize that we all emerged from the depths of Mother's vortex, and feel grateful about that, and acknowledge our gratitude to that source, we would be better for it.
As it is, the history of women has all been obliterated from past tomes in favor of male conquests. The result? The Yang heavily outweighs the Yin. The world is out of balance. I mean, come on, it took until 1920 when American women could finally cast a ballot in the voting box, and we have never had a female President here in the USA. The products of the most brilliant minds have been lost to all of time, simply because they were female. Look up Hypatia on Google, and see how this philosopher, mathematician, astronomer and inventor from Alexandria (born in late AD 300's) was torn limb from limb by a rabid Christian mob. Why? For no other reason than because she was a woman who "flaunted" her power. Religion has been the source of much discomfort for humanity. I think this could be because those involved in extreme religions fail to practice spirituality. Ironic, isn't it?
In my own case, I was raped at the age of 18 while on a first-time "date" with a guy who was a cook at the Lafayette Coney Island in Detroit where I'd gone to lunch while working as an 18-year-old temp in a law office . His name was Vasilios. After abusing me in his squalid apartment on the west side of Detroit, he dropped me off on the highway where I found my way to a bar that was just closing. The barkeep let me use the phone to telephone the police who took me to their station and commenced another type of rape with a line of questions like "Do you have anal sex" and "How many men have you had sex with?" After they absconded with my panties for evidence they processed me at a nearby hospital where a woman lay moaning on a guerney. I realized then that I was fortunate in that I was not at death's door like that woman, and I was not in the mood to continue to be raped by the police. So I walked out of the hospital, jumped on the first bus I could find, and made my way home as the early morning sun began obliterating the shadows of night.
This was an era where there was no such thing as a cell phone. And the police had not bothered to call my parents. I don't even remember if I asked them to. My mother was waiting for me at the door. She took me in her arms immediately, and I cried and cried as everyone else in the house slept.
My mom consulted with a lawyer, and I had to relate the whole damn story again. He didn't think I had a case, because I was not hurt or dead, and the rapist had no weapon (other than being a male twice my size). The case dead-ended there, and the pain began to relentlessly haunt me. This would continue for many years. I soon left Michigan for California.
I processed my grief, my self-loathing, my clouded visions of my future. It took me a long time. But I realized my self-worth and uncovered the happy inner spirit that had once been mine, as a child, when my dad used to call me "Smiley." I regained it to achieve the dream I had always harbored, to be a writer living with my soulmate by the sea. Which is who I am.
I also have this streak of righteousness that probably comes from being a daughter of Illinois, a daughter of Lincoln, and a daughter of my righteous father, Joseph Edmund Mooney. From the day I defended my little brother against two bullies (much to my brother's embarrassment), I feel I was destined to defend the rights of those who are beleaguered by a segment of society for whatever reason: the gays, the homeless, homeless veterans, women, black people, brown people, peaceful people, and the latest flavor is Gulf people.
When will we all get that as my friend, "The Eggman" Sherrill, used to say, "The only thing separating me from you is our skin." We are one. When we help others, we are helping ourselves.
These reflections come upon the threshold of my 55th birthday. The numbers are pretty interesting. Born in 1955, and turn 55 in 2010. I'm sure it means something and whatever it is, I'm ready for the fun of it.